Breaking up doesn’t mean that no more love is left; it’s more of trying to save the love that’s left. When we suffer a loss, a break up, a painful change in our lives, we need to remember to take all the time we need to heal emotionally. Moving forward and getting back on track with our lives doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of small steps to allow us to break free from our broken self and move on.
Relationships nowadays are shorter than courtship. Why? Because some guys changes when they got the girl they want. As other said “Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi ang panliligaw.” Yes it’s true. Kasi ano pang silbi ng taon mo’ng panliligaw kung pang isang linggong kaligayahan lang pala? Niligawan mo ang babae, kaya dapat panindigan hanggang dulo. Pagdating sa tunay na pagmamahal, there’s no such word as flaws and imperfections.
After a breakup, it takes a couple weeks for the fog to settle, but it’s always a period of self-priority and growth. Hayaan mo kung may nakita na kaagad sya na iba. Wag mong panghinayangan ang mga taong ikaw mismo ang sinayang dahil at the end of the day babalik at babalik yan, and when that time comes, wala na syang babalikan. As they say, the best revenge is living well.
Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you’re with an individual who isn’t moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain’t going to work. Breaking up is not a stupid thing; instead it makes you a better person and realize your mistakes. Just.. Wake up!
Break ups are for hurting of course. It’s natural. But it’ll mold you to become a better person. learn from it. It’s okay to feel like you have messed up – accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you’re not the only one who made mistakes. Acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before finding the right one, so that when we finally find the right one, we will know how to be grateful. Don’t settle for those person whom you known in the first place will break your heart.
Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache, bumangon ka! Hindi pa end of the world. Marami ka pang pwedeng gawin, hindi lang pagmumukmok. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways. You can congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn’t work out this time, there will be a next time. Cheer Up and smile like nothing happens!
There is nothing sadder in this life than to watch someone you love walk away after they have left you. To watch the distance between your two bodies expand until there is nothing left but empty space… and silence. Crying all night is okay. In fact, studies show that crying over your breakup all night well help you get over your breakup faster.
Summary:
The hardest part of a breakup, is not going with the routine you had with your ex. Finding other things to replace the dates, the phone calls, the constant texting, the urge to see each other, the promises made, the laughter, the intimate moments, the I love you’s, the I miss you’s, the comfort and the love that you both shared.